How to be content with yourself
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To start with; I'd like to let you all know something. A disclaimer: I am writing these thought-provoking blogs to help young people like YOU to grow in confidence, have faith, be strong and to never let go of those things that make you happy. I am in no way trying to weigh you down with my problems or emotions but instead, trying to let you know that you are not alone in what you are feeling.
Feeling content with yourself? How do you finally become who you have always dreamed yourself to be? How do you become YOU?
Many people will read this and think, 'What do you mean, become yourself, we are ourselves.' Yes you are right to an certain extent but many people are not allowing themselves to be themselves.They have created walls and barriers to their inner selves. Some feel inclined to be another person to make their friends happy or they just feel they are not fulfilling their own self prophecies. I personally, am the kind who has not reached the place where I am finally happy with who I am in an emotional sense. I am my worst critic, I overthink and more importantly fail to overlook the negative opinions others have of me. Recently I have experienced something that made me grow up, question life and to perceive myself differently. However; should we beat ourselves up for mistakes or let them shape ourselves into better people. It is hard to forget those things that caused us pain, hurt and shame but is it really a good idea to punish ourselves for it forever. The best revenge is to not let it DEFINE YOU, build a better life for yourself, be a beautiful human being that creates light within others lives. We are human so don't be afraid to cry and fall because we need to fall to build ourselves back up.
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Did anyone else tear up ? or find that they can relate to this?!
Situations change us quite dramatically but that doesn't mean it has the power to change who you are in the inside. My only real advice to you, is to make sure you do things that make you happy and always follow what you want to do in life such as your dreams and aspirations. Never loose sight of who you are and your purpose:
I have learnt the hard way, believe me.
Loosing focus of your own personal interests, aspirations and passions only change who you are. Worrying about what others think only ruins your own optimistic view towards life. Even if you go through life with one true friend it doesn't mean there's something wrong with who you are. Personally, to me it means you are a warrior, headstrong and your own leader and you don't let the negative people around you get in your way. Going through life solo is an adventure and something we should never fear.
So back to my last question. How do you become YOU? ... well by simply being YOU! No one is boring, silly or worthless, everyone is beautiful. It really depends on how to tackle those demons within, that determine your self and life outlook.
One of my favourite quotes is : 'How can you love another, if you can't love yourself?' It's really important to accept yourself as who you are because your beautiful inside and out. Believe me, I have those days when I find myself criticising everything I'm saying or doing but I'm beginning to realise how it is just a waste of energy. So I shrug it off and think about all the positive things in my life and things I've achieved. If you dig deep, you will find far more than you think. We all have achieved something positive in our day to day life, whether this is making someone happy; a good deed or simply making someone smile or laugh. Whatever it is; we are all capable of being an advocate towards someone. I believe that is OUR PURPOSE- to be a hero or a saviour for someone
We are the best versions of ourself when we help others, make them happy and become someone you can come for advice.
I hope this blog has somewhat inspired you in some way. I love giving advice to people. I am always giving myself advice because I struggle with self-criticism. I have had people say to me how they find it difficult to believe I am not a very confident person. I have to reply back with 'That's because I've learnt to relax.' I was painfully shy and sometimes socially awkward. I also tried too hard at times to be someone I thought people would like. It's easier said than done to say' if I could go back in time, I would tell my younger self this and that.' I'd love to go back and change things as you NEED TO BE YOU, but sometimes it feels difficult and I completely understand that. However, never feel like you are alone. Talk to someone. I found teaching assistants easier to talk to or mentors as they came across more chilled.
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